Hey guys,

Just wanted to quickly start and apologize for NOT continuing on the forgiveness posts, the reason is because tomorrow, Thursday and Friday I am doing 3 very VERY special posts for you.

Okay so here we go, today we are discussing something that was brought up by a few friends the other day. It was about the concept of Soul Mates, Attraction and people. So here’s the skinny, I decided to do this post to explain:

• What a soul mate is.
• The misconception
• The people puzzle
• What is attraction
• How to get it to work for you…

So let’s jump straight in with what a soul mate really is…

It is seen by many people as this mystical thing that doesn’t exist anymore because of the relationship fail ratio with the cheating ratio and of course the abysmal divorce rate in the world. But I want to say, soul mates do exist but not the way the Media has been saying so, you know the whole.

“We met under a tree and kissed and then married, lived happily ever after”… This isn’t gonna work for you, well it might but your one of the VERY VERY few, your like the anomaly of all relationships. Don’t worry I’m not picking on it I just like to ridicule the media’s way of thinking.

So if that isn’t a soul mate what is? Is there more then one? or is it just one???

Well to answer that entirely a soul mate is someone that, to Quote Dr. John F. Demartini,

“The purpose of a partner is for you to love your disowned parts.”

Look at your values, list the top 10 things, in order you value. Now if you have a partner, you can do this with them, but don’t show them, but if you are single do this as well. What you are likely to find is the things you list lowest on your list, is highest on there list, and what you list highest on your list, they have it at the lower end of there’s.

The whole purpose of a mate is to have completion, to love yourself entirely. The partner is your actual equilibrium, they bring balance to you.

Before we jump into what I have titled my theory as, “The People Puzzle” I want to ask you guys something.

Do you know what attraction is? Can you explain it?

I couldn’t personally, but thankfully a friend of mine did, his name is Adam Lyons, now Adam describes Attraction as, “Just a feeling someone gets in that moment, after a while it fades.” – Adam is a relationships and dating expert. So attraction is just that, it is also the end product of correct flirting.

So on to this “people puzzle Theory”…. Well I only came up with it when I was speaking to a friend when I was asked a question, “is there more then one person for you out there or what?”… My answer is of course there is, there’s nearly 7 Billion people on this planet, I think more then a 1,000 will probably be with you, as in long term, marriage thing. So that means the whole, “One person” rule goes out the window, but why??

Well this is the theory I put forward, Imagine us much like the drawing with missing parts of ourselves, there are more then enough people that fill those parts of us for us. Lovers, boyfriends/girlfriends, wifes/husbands, friends/family, etc. Now this is the craziness of this theory, because we have these missing pieces we sometimes STOP ourselves from getting attracted to eople because we feel that they may not fill our needs. OR they fill our needs and we lose our friends, but truth is, say you are looking for this “missing piece” of a person, you will the qualities you want in that person FRAGMENTED in your friends that you hold closest, Example from a friend:

“I want my boyfriend to be cuddley and always there for me”…..you know what the moment she found this guy her closest friend stopped speaking to her, not because of malice just because he had other things and she had a boyfriend.

So how to get this puzzle, attraction soul mate thingy to work for you rather then it work you…Simple really, get a sheet of paper out and yes it has to be paper. Write out what you want in this person in great detail. Then store it somewhere or go to the post office and ask them to send it to your address in 6 months time…You will be astounded by the results you get….

How do I know because I did something similar but in the area of my fashion sense. I didn’t have bad fashion sense just not good fashion sense, and now 6 months later, I unconsciously have a better fashion sense after writing up what I wanted.

Anyway guys that’s it for today. Catch the video version of this soon.

Later days!